Is There Really Sex After Kids? Giveaway with Jill Savage
PRAYER PLEASE: As I was preparing this post about Jill Savage on Monday night, I got an email telling me that she had been admitted to the hospital with chest pains and stroke-like symptoms. It turns out she has blood clots on her lungs and will need to be put on blood thinners and observed for a few days. Please pray for her and her family! Thanks so much.
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Well moms….does your “To Do” list look somewhat like this?
- Get kids up and ready for school
- pack lunches
- check homework
- change baby
- do three loads of laundry
- mop floor (again!)
- feed dog
- get groceries and go to post office
- referee siblings squabble
- scour sinks and tubs
- give baths and locate pj’s
- scrub baked-on grease off of supper pans
- turn into sex goddess in 6 seconds flat and make hubby happy with a little horizontal fellowship
- collapse in bed
- get up the next day and do it all again….
Whew!!! I am tired just reading that list!
Well, cyber sisters, my dear, nearly decades-long friend Jill Savage knows all too well the demands placed on a busy mom. Demands of motherhood and demands of marriage. She penned a book just for such women that answers the question Is There Really Sex After Kids? (Don’t worry dads….the answer is a resounding yes!)
Here is a little bit about her straight-shooting and practical book:
What’s happened to our sex life now that we have kids? Many moms may not ask this question aloud, but Jill Savage knows from years of leading Hearts at Home conferences that no workshop subject will more quickly fill a room. Having children in the home alters the sexual dynamic between husband and wife. Going from making meatloaf to making love, from practical mommy to passionate lover, all in one crowded evening has its own set of unique challenges.
Is There Really Sex After Kids? is written by a mom, for moms, and is filled with practical ideas. This is not a clinical book on sexual technique, though readers will find some creative suggestions. It isn’t a counselor’s text, though it contains the sage wisdom of a mentor and friend. It is a woman-to-woman discussion—a true insider’s look—at what works to build intimacy outside the bedroom and improve intimacy inside the bedroom.
This practical guide helps women rise above frustrations and disappointments to restore intimacy, pleasure, spontaneity, and passion in their marriage.
Today Jill has graciously agreed to offer a signed copy of this book to one of you who leaves a comment. And since she talks about the struggle moms face going from making meatloaf to making love, I’ll throw in a cute, heart-decorated oven mitt (for the meatloaf part) and some Bath and Body Works P.S. I Love You Spring Fling Lotion (for the making love part!)
Simply leave a comment today telling us where you and your hubby went on your honeymoon. Drawing will be random. Oh, and you may leave a comment on any or all of this week’s Valentines posts until Sunday at midnight EST. All of the winners will be announced on Monday.
I’ll start us off with today’s comment.
Todd took me on a tour of many Bed & Breakfast Inn’s in Michigan’s northern lower peninsula and then across the Mackinac Bridge to the upper peninsula. Then we took a ferry to charming Mackinac Island (a quaint, frozen-in-time island, famous for fudge and where the only transportation methods are horse-drawn carriages and bicycles!) We stayed in the Grand Hotel (where the movie Somewhere in Time was filmed) and then crossed into Canada to take a color train tour.
We always planned to replicate the trip on our 25th anniversary, but that is only 1 1/2 years away in June 2011 and instead, we’ll probably be knee-deep in college bills and both boys’ baseball seasons! Hmmmm…well, maybe for our 30th….
Now, where did you and your hubby go on your honeymoon? (besides to bed, I mean ;-))
Horizontal Fellowship Blessings,
I am still waiting for a honey moon, 21 years later. We were married at a National Forest Service Ranger station, about 3 miles from our home, during a snow storm. After the ceremony and a small family gathering,we went home so we could go to work the next day–at that time, trapping beavers-a romantic, rustic life.
We went to Reno, Nevada for four days for our honeymoon in November, 1988…it snowed when we were there! We stayed at Harrah’s Hotel, saw Paul Revere & the Raiders (or some version of them!) in a lounge show, and had a wonderful time!
Ken and I just went over to the coast for our honeymoon. We live in Oregon so we went to a nice place on the coast and spent a couple of days and went to the Sea Lion Caves. It was very nice. We are hoping and Lord willing, to go to Hawaii next year for our 30th.
My husband and I went to Los Cabos Mexico, it was beautiful the sights the hotel the service, Yeah!!
However the hoenymoon planning did not go as smoothly as I wanted it to. But God was working in my heart… we did have to postpone our “official honeymoon” 4mos later because of my husband’s new job, even though he did not want to go at first b/c of his new job it was well worth the wait in trying to work out the honeymoon at a time that worked for both of us.
We had a wonderful honeymoon in Cancun, Mexico, staying at the Moon Palace. It was beautiful, fun and VERY memorable!! :D
We had a fabulous, relaxing time in Puerto Rico and have plans to one day return for another honeymoon/vacation, but this time we plan to do more sight-seeing! ;-)
We were married almost 11 years and 4 kids ago! We went on a cruise to Cancun. What I remember most looking back is how much fun we had, just the two of us. Now it’s hard to find that time for “just us” as our kids are 6, 4, and twins that are 2.
My husband and I were given a time share to use for our honeymoon. We could pick anywhere, we just had to pay for our travel and food. So he decided to take me to Aruba! It was the most beautiful island. We spent a whole week going to different beaches, snorkeling, jet skiing, and eating a nice restaurants. We had said we would go back for our 5th anniversary, but we ended up going on a Caribbean cruise instead. So now it looks like our 10th or 15th anniversary. We will never forget our honeymoon in Aruba and can’t wait to go back!
Our honeymoon was part of the wedding trip. We eloped to Destin, FL, which is one of our all-time favorite beaches. We enjoyed a relaxing couples massage at the San Destin resort, ate out for every meal, and got married barefoot in the sand. It actually poured rain minutes before the wedding, but it turned out to work in our favor…it cleared the beach for us! So there weren’t really any people in our wedding pics! I love reminiscing about this special day and trip!!
Because my husband and I bought our first house just before our wedding we had a very small honeymoon. We ventured to Biloxi, MS to stay at the Beau Rivage Hotel. (Only 3 hours from our hometown) We enjoyed three days of lounging around, eating out, and walking on the beach in February. It was nice and quiet. We hope to take a real honeymoon when our kids get older.
We stayed at an all inclusive resort in Punta Cana, Dominican Republic. The beach was gorgeous, the pool was huge, and the whole place was relaxing. We took an excursion where we got to drive our own mini-boat for two and then went snorkeling in the beautiful clear waters.
My husband and I were late to the marriage scene, being 44 and 37 years of age respectively. We certainly had the money to go on a honeymoon, but my husband, the ever practical engineer, thought we’d be too tired after the wedding festivities to hop a plane or take a drive to a destination. It turns out he was right – the two days following our wedding are STILL a blur, nearly 7 years later. We told ourselves we’d take a honeymoon later. Then, of course, my biological clock was more than ticking; it was sounding like a gong!!! After two miscarriages, we were finally blessed with a beautiful healthy baby boy. Obviously, we didn’t go ANYWHERE that first year without our son. Our son just turned 5 years old and we STILL haven’t had that honeymoon. Maybe we’ll combine the honeymoon with a 20th anniversary trip. By then, our son will be 18 and on his way to college. On thinking on it, we should go sooner than that — my husband will be 64 by then and I’m reminded of that Beatles’ tune, “When I’m 64”. Do I really want to be feeding my husband on our honeymoon?
Well, I’m with the rest of them. We didn’t have a honeymoon either. However, on our wedding night we stayed at this fabulous bed and breakfast in Eau Claire, WI. We played board games til the wee hours and swam in the pool the next morning. We moved to North Dakota two days after our wedding so my husband could finish his teaching degree. Seven and a half years and two kids later we’ve only been on two vacations alone and most of them involved a sporting event!
We didn’t have a honeymoon either! I thought I would be the only one saying that so I didn’t add my comments first thing this morning. Though I will confess that we didn’t do things in the right order, we are going strong after almost 18 years. It isn’t perfect, but he’s my best friend and I love him to pieces.
I will be getting both of Melanie’s books whether I win or not. Are there any pictures in the book? It’s a standing joke around here that my husband only ‘reads’ books if there are lots of pictures… Oyyyy
We went to Flagstaff, Arizona. We were married November ’04, and the weather there was actually wonderful! And because of the off-season, there were hardly any crowds. We saw the Grand Canyon and visited other neat sites. Great honeymoon, great husband, great marriage! And now two great little boys!!! Which is why I’d love to win this book! ;-)
My husband and I did not have a honeymoon, I (now we) have a daughter. My first husband died, so when I remarried we had instant family. We married on a Saturday morning at 9am so we could get to our daughters spring carnival at school that started at 10am. We had fun but we would like to one day go on a honeymoon.
We got married over Thanksgiving weekend ’01 and I had to go fly to San Bernadino for a mtg the first week in Dec so we waited a week and had a honeymoon that could be written off our taxes (I was self employed) :) At least the hotel, rental car and most meals! We spent a week in San Diego and drove to San Bernadino for a couple days for my meetings.
Karen – we are just outside Indy and every fall I tell my hubby I want to take a trip like your honeymoon! And definately a night or two at the Grand Hotel! Maybe for our 10th…
Steve and I went to Chattanooga, TN. When we got to the hotel we had booked, it was in a terrible section of town so we started looking for something else. We found this cute little place on the side of the mountain. It only had about 10 rooms and they definitely were not your top of the line modern anything but there was only one other couple there and they were on the other end of the building. Our balcony was literally hanging over the side of the mountain overlooking the river below. It was beautiful. We had a great trip and talk about going back again someday.
Well, it was our second marriage, blending our seven children. We only had one night, so we traveled to the nearest holiday inn thirty minutes from our home and stayed in the honeymoon sweet. The rest is history, and btw we now have nine children!
We are both teachers and married on New Year’s Eve during Christmas break. Since our time was limited, we went to Oklahoma City and stayed at a nice hotel, went on a horse drawn carriage ride, and had a great time! We have four kids and need this book!
Rick and I went to the Dunns River Sandals Resort in Jamacia. We had a fabulous time. Hiking Dunns River falls was so much fun. We shopped in a tourist section of town also, but we mostly stayed on the resort. He got the breakfast in bed package, so every morning we ate breakfast while sitting on the balcony. It was so beautiful, relaxing and peaceful.
We went to the Smoky Mountains, stayed in a beautiful chalet, and spent time outdoors hiking, horseback riding, and white-water rafting.
We went to Cancun, Mexico to an all-inclusive resort and slept, ate, lounged by the pool and ocean and never ventured out of the resort…a true honeymoon ;) !!
We went to the Bahamas and stayed at an all-inclusive resort. It was beautiful and nice to have all the meals already paid for. My husband’s favorite thing (besides the horizontal fellowship of course) was the fried conch! He was such a good sport and even let them dress him up as a pirate for pirate night.
My husband and I didn’t get a honeymoon. We were young and dumb so to speak! We had our first child three months before our wedding. We did alot of growing up in our 20’s together. By all sense we should be divorced, had we not had God in our lives, we probably would have. But we are stronger for it now. We still have crud in our lives, and are usually united. We talk of someday taking a honeymoon trip X amount of years later….we shall see!