Oh friends, my head is about to explode!
For two reasons, really. One, because there are so many goodies here for you today including two free e-books and a chance at a free night’s stay at a fantastic Georgia Bed & Breakfast! and our last swap and share day giving some hospitality on the road ideas and……
Because I am sick.
The sore throat, pounding sinus-headache, coughin’, creepin’ crud SICK!
But when I think of what day it is and what Jesus did for me by suffering on the cross? Well, a little creepin’ crud ain’t NOTHIN’!
Today’s guest is giving us ways to lay down a little of our lives in order to make our husband’s return home each day relaxing.
My new fabulously talented friend Darlene Schacht is here!
As help-meet to her husband Michael, she guides and nurtures their four children, leading them toward a deeper walk of faith.
She is a New York Times best-selling author through the book she co-authored with actress Candace Cameron Bure titled, Reshaping it All: Motivation for Physical and Spiritual Fitness.
My Desire for Curb Appeal
Dictionary.com defines hospitality this way: The friendly reception and treatment of guests or strangers.
It’s a wonderful thing to treat our guests with a friendly reception. I like it and I’m sure that you appreciate the extra effort too. It’s unfortunate however that many families don’t take the time to treat each other with the same level of respect.
When my husband walks through the door after a hard day at work, I like to offer him what I refer to as “curb appeal.” Curb appeal offers him a feeling of peace, respect and acceptance from the moment he steps into our home.
~ Take a look in the mirror an hour before your husband comes home to ensure that you are presentable. An hour allows ample time to hop into the shower if need be.
~ Go light on the perfume, but use great smelling soaps, shampoo, and antiperspirant so he’ll want to snuggle up for the evening.
~ If you wear makeup, put a little on before he walks in. Your goal is to look happy and radiant–not done up.
~ Dress in feminine clothing. Men are attracted to women, not fashion, so do your best to wear styles, fabrics and colors that remind him you’re a woman and not another one of the guys. Dress as well for him as you would for new friends.
~ Have all chores done before he walks in the door, and try to have things like the dishwasher and vacuum turned off.
~ Put aside your problems and be cheerful when he walks in the door.
~ Make your bed every morning so he has a comfortable place to rest at night or upon returning from work.
~ Ensure that the television and stereos are turned off so that the house is peaceful.
~ If the kids are excited about something, encourage them to wait about 15 minutes before they share their news.
~ Prepare dinner before he arrives. There’s nothing quite like the smell of home cooking when you walk in the door—especially when you’re cooking the food he likes.
~ Have the pots and pans washed ahead of time so that the kitchen is every bit as presentable as the meal.
~ If you have problems to deal with, wait until after dinner to spring it on him. Husbands are happier when their tummies are full.
~ Greet him at the door with open arms, a kiss, and a warm embrace.
~ Make an effort to look at him when he is speaking so that he has your full attention.
~ Close the computer if you’re on it, and if you’re chatting on the phone try to end the conversation and call her back later.
~ Do your best to have the house clean and organized at all times. He is working hard outside the home and needs home to be his haven of rest.
~ Don’t be angry if he’s working late, instead show appreciation for long hours put in.
~ Have the kids wash their faces, and change their clothing if they are soiled from play before Daddy comes home.
~ Don’t nag him or try to reshape his bad habits. Work on your own and practice acceptance at all times.
~ It is imperative that you defend your husband to your children and that they respect him at all times. Never allow them to grumble or complain about him whether he’s present or not.
~ Don’t compare him to other women’s husbands or to your father when it comes to your definition of a man. Love and respect go a lot farther than criticism ever will.
“A wife of noble character who can find? She is worth far more than rubies. ~ Proverbs 31:10”
You are loved by an almighty God,
Ok gals—for the giveaways!
First, for a copy of Darlene’s free e-books; One on Esther, the beauty of courageous submission and one on Ruth, a woman of virtue, click here.
Then, one of you who leaves a hospitality on the road idea, either as a comment or as a link to your blog post on the topic, will win one free night’s stay at the Madison Oaks Inn & Gardens!!!
This stay, subject to room availability, is for the Hannah room, their nicest room and a $280 value! Thank you to Cheryl–the proprietor of the inn who read my book and contacted me with this generous offer!
This will be a great get-away for you and your hubby or a friend. (Sorry, no children under 13 and of course, this doesn’t include travel. You’ll need to get yourself to the inn which is about an hour from Atlanta.)
OK–please leave us a hospitality on the road idea: a clever way to reach out and love on someone that doesn’t involve your home but involves you going to them!
Is there a theme basket you could take a sports-lover, a bbq fanatic or ballerina?
Any way to bless a stranger? A faraway friend or relative by using the US mail?
What could you do for a new family in your church or neighborhood?
A coach, teacher or bus driver?
I can’t wait to see your ideas!
PLEASE NOTE: Make sure you end your comment or post by putting in quotes “B & B” So I know if you’d like to win the Bed & Breakfast giveaway. If you are chosen at random as the winner and can’t get away to the inn, I’ll give you a different prize and pick another winner for the Inn.