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I know many of you are joining us after clicking over from the devotion I have running at Proverbs 31 and on If you haven’t read the devotion, click here so the rest of the post makes sense! :-) Be sure to come back to finish reading this and enter the giveaway!


Have you ever encountered the backwards ways we measure success in our society?

  • School teachers who pour their lives into students or nurses who care for the sick earn modest wages.
  • However, those who can shoot an orange ball through a hoop or smack a tiny white one down a fairway make millions.
  • People who pour their lives into working with the poor or homeless go virtually unnoticed.
  • Others who write vulgar lyrics set to rap music are adored by scores of fans worldwide.

Or how about the time and money we spend? Anything backwards there?

  • Couples drop thousands of dollars in order to put on an elaborate wedding, but think a hundred bucks is too much to spend on a biblically-based marriage conference.
  • Those same love birds will spend countless hours planning the ceremony, reception and every last detail of the day right down to registering for the type of dish towels they simply must have.
  • Yep– lots of time planning the wedding. Little time preparing for the actual marriage relationship.

Why is it that we expend great amounts of energy on the outward and often ignore the things of our inner selves? Have we never heard God weigh in on all of this? Read these verses from the devotion again:

“But the LORD said to Samuel, ‘Do not look on his appearance or on the height of his stature, because I have rejected him. For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart.'” I Samuel 16:7 (ESV)

Peter 3:3-4, “Do not let your adorning be external—the braiding of hair and the putting on of gold jewelry, or the clothing you wear— but let your adorning be the hidden person of the heart with the imperishable beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which in God’s sight is very precious.” (ESV)

The Lord sees more than the external. He sees straight to our hearts. While he is not against us working on our outward appearance, it certainly is not priority number one for Him.

To boil it all down, He isn’t against pearls, He’s just more concerned with personality.

He doesn’t forbid getting your hair spruced up. He just rather you spend as much effort on your heart as your hair.

Maybe even more.

For those of you who are parents, this topic can be a challenging one. While we certainly want to encourage our kids to excel academically, musically or in athletics, we must be even more concerned with their character.

I’ll say it again as in the devotion. Who we are inside is really who we are.

So applaud those efforts as much as the A on the math test or the starting position on the ball team.

In fact, make a big deal about it. I mean why not take a kid our for a treat when he is diligent to study every night for a week for his big exam? Reward his diligence. Yes, don’t just wait until you find out what grade he or she gets on their Friday exam. Take them out on Thursday night to say “way to go!” for studying faithfully Monday-Thursday. Reward faithfulness, not just an A.

Or catch them modeling Christ.

Did they hold the door open for an elderly woman at the grocery store without prompting from you?

Swing by a favorite soda shop and treat them to a “mom-never-lets-us-buy-this” goodie.

Did they do something wrong (which angered you greatly) but then later admitted their fault (which made you pleased)?

Time for a date with you to do something they love (even if it is something you can’t stand)

{Ahem…..later today I am trekking off to the Detroit Zoo for an impromptu trip with my youngest and a friend from his homeschool academy to reward him for a huge behavior change. Hello? I am no animal lover. I’d rather have a root canal than go to the zoo but he and his friend ADORE animals, so off we go. Don’t think of me as martyr mom. They’ll be a Starbucks in this trip somewhere for me. I have a gift card from my birthday to use up :-)}

But I digress.

Today I want to offer a giveaway that will enable you to reward your kiddos for their inner qualities.

It is called the Family Enrichment Tool kit and it was developed by my friend Michelle Weber a Proverbs 31 She Speaks graduate. Here is what is said about this on our P31 website store:

We are thrilled to have discovered a unique gift idea for any family. The Family Enrichment Toolkit was developed, practically in our own backyard, by a She Speaks graduate. Michelle Weber’s toolkit provides parents with a fun way to instill positive virtues and character in their children, while building stronger family relationships. The kit includes a 12″ lead-free ceramic plate, plate stand, a set of 250 Table Thyme Activity cards with discussion topics and questions, and a 28 minutes CD that will walk you through the incredibly simple steps to making the toolkit an invaluable part of your family.

Michelle developed this because she had one child who was a star gymnast with lots of pats on the back and public praise while her other child has special needs. She wanted to be able to provide an “atta girl” to her as well for efforts she made. Thus, this wonderful idea was born!

We have one of these plates that we use in our own family. And we even use it with extended family.

The gist is this: You decorate the plate with your own family name. Then it becomes the “Smith Family Honor Plate” (The finished product is durable and washable and it is easy to do) Then, catch your kids (or spouse) exhibiting any fruit of the spirit– love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness or self-control. When they do, serve them their dinner on the family honor plate and reward them for this inner quality. There is also a cd that explains this concept more fully and great discussion starter cards for family dinner time. Click here for more info.

Okay…leave a comment today to be entered in the drawing for on of two Family Enrichment Toolkits. It can be a comment about any aspect of this topic, or if time is tight, simply say “I’m in!” Winners will be announced on Wednesday.

Backwards Blessings,

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  1. Karen,
    I’m in also. I am working on getting 10 lbs. off. I gained them back after loosing 30 lbs. through Weight Watcher’s program. I had a accident back in Aug. 2009 and I had to stop working out and well there you have it! That’s a given huh? I just started working out in March 2010 and I have not lost anything yet, but I know that I know that I know that the Holy Spirit is by my side and he is guiding me through this work out plan. I am doing pilates-Mon, Wed & Fri, Tae Bo-Tue & Thurs and 30 min. on treadmill twice a week – HELP!
    Karen, my scripture for today is found on 2 Corinthians 4:8-10.
    Hard pressed on every side, yet not crushed; we are perplexed, but not in despair;
    Persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed. –
    Always carrying about in the body the dying of the Lord Jesus, that the life of Jesus also may be manifested in our body.

    That is the life a christian, Haleluyia to the Lamb of God!

  2. Hello again!!

    The scripture: Peter 3:3-4 is just awesome…… Again, thank you for this entire writing…… I needed that too!!!!

    I now see that having three-cord women friendships is so beautiful and perfect!!! I like the “strand” definition too…. I truly don’t feel alone with my battles today…..

    I am truly grateful for this Web site and waht it stands for!!

    God’s Love and Mine,
    Olivia Cowan

  3. Hi – I just had to leave a message. I grew up in a family where success was measured by how many college degrees you had. Between my husband and I , we have five. My first child was quick, ahead of the curve. We were so proud! Then my daughter was born. She has special needs and has redefined the word success completely for me. She lights up any room she walks into. One of her aids (in a public school) commented the other day on what a great evangelist she is. One of her first questions to new friends is “do you know God?” I love it when we are walking through a grocery store and she is singing praise songs at the top of her lungs – I wish I could be more like her!

  4. I’m in! What a great idea! I’ve heard about similiar ideas and think this is marvelous. Love your blog … God bless!!!

  5. This great, a mother of two and both very different kids in personality and abilities, this is a great idea!

  6. I am in! Having four kids with varying skills and abilities, we are always looking for ways to be sure that all our kids get a pat on the back from time to time… not just a current superstar or squeaky wheel! : ) Love this idea!

  7. I LOVE THIS!!!
    I just taught at a ladies retreat a few weekends back on the Fruit of the Spirit!
    This would have been a great giveaway to have for that weekend!

    My kids love being honored! And it’s a pleasure to do it!

  8. Thanks for your encouraging words about our children… needed that reminder so very much. It’s good to know that God sees our every weakness & our every need. He knows what our children will grow up to be & as long as they grow up with a heart that knows Jesus, & are living to the full potential of what God wants that’s all that really matters.
    Blessings on you & your ministry!!

  9. I love this entry. I had a special needs child as well as a non special needs and find this all to be true. Thanks!

  10. Just what I needed to hear today! Life is crazy right now and the to-do list is long, yet nothing is more important than our children’s love of the Lord. Thank you for bringing that back to the forefront for me. I’m in!

  11. I was just praying about this! Telling the Lord I don’t care what our son’s career is or if he goes to college, as long as he loves and serves the Lord. Praise God! He is not even a year old yet, but I look forward to someday owning this tool and Mining for Gold by Renee Swope. God bless and hope the zoo (and Starbucks) was fun!

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