You’re Already Amazing with Holley Gerth
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Ever feel the pressure to be perfect?
Look perfect.
Have a perfect marriage.
And perfectly behaved children.
A perfect house anyone?
How about a perfect job, extended family or past?
In the best-selling book You’re Already Amazing, popular blogger and cofounder of (in)courage Holley Gerth helps women understand and embrace the fact that they don’t need to do more, be more, and have more–because they’re already amazing just the way God created them to be.
As a licensed counselor and certified life coach, she knows what readers need to hear.
Like a heart-to-heart talk over coffee, reading this joy-filled book encourages women to forget the lies and expectations the world feeds them, instead believing that God made them for a purpose and that he loves them right now, at this moment, and always.
Holley takes readers on a journey of the heart to discover their strengths and embrace all God created them to be.
This fabulous author and regular girlfriend has agreed to give away a copy of her encouraging book to one of you who comments on this post. And you may also pick one item from the Holley collection from Day Spring. Click here to see it.
Tell us this, in what area of life do you most feel the pressure to be perfect?
Winner announced Monday.
I have always wanted a “white picket fence” perfect house and family. I am constantly comparing myself with others and know I shouldn’t be. God is showing me slowly that I need to strive to please Him and lean into Him, and He is planting deep inside me, that I wouldn’t want anything other than my not-so-white-picket-family, I don’t know what I would do without them, they are my gift from God.. However sometimes I get off track and start striving for the “white picket fence” fantasy of mine. Thankfully His mercies are new every morning, great is His faithfulness!
I often feel lacking in my walk with the Lord, plus as a mom to teens and a wife & homemaker – I need to focus on truth from the Word. Thanks for the giveaway.
I never thought about it before but I feel pressure to be perfect in several areas of my life. I’m not sure why. Thank you for opening my eyes to this.
Ohh…this is one hits close to home tonight. I feel the most pressure to have a clean and organized home. I have four children and we are constantly on the go…so therefore my house may not always be the cleanest. Laundry is done but maybe not folded, dusting…welcome to my dust bunny collection, vaccuuming…well that again is the dog hair collection I am maintaining. I think you catch my drift. However a close second is the pressure to be the perfect mother, wife, daughter, friend…I always try to look my best, act my best, make all happy. I am slowly learning that the only person I have to please is God. He is the perfect one and I strive each day to be more like Him.
Have a blessed evening…
Smiles and Blessings,
Robin :)
I speak without thinking. I blurt out words I wish I could eat. I can write pretty words but speaking them is more difficult..
I feel the most pressure to be perfect as a mother, and also as a hostess. I tend to focus so much on creating experiences for others that I forget to enjoy them myself, and I constantly compare myself to others and always feel I come up far, far short.
I’m tryng not to be a people pleaser but a God pleaser. Attention to the things of this world are such temporary things. God wants my full attention. I don’t want to come under fears that I’m not perfect. I will repent and humble myself before Him, the One I’m devoted to!!
When I was a child I was pressured to be the perfect daughter and student. Once married I was pressured to be the perfect wife, then mother and then single mother and employee. Once I turned my life over to Jesus I pressured myself to be the perfect Christian. I didn’t know any way to be other than “perfect.” It has taken me a while but I have accepted that I’m already the perfect “me” and that Jesus accepts me just as I am, unconditionally. (Okay, I do have my off days…)
I woild like to be totally oerfect, but the area I feel have some chance in is my home-still since I have a family it will never be perfect and I would rather have my children and a little imperfection,than perfection and being alone.
I am a tweener. That means I have kids still at home and aging parents (80 something). A lot to keep track of and a lot of pressure.
For me, to have the “perfect” house is my biggest struggle, especially since I am a stay-at-home mom. The truth is, ever since my son has been in school, I am only home about half the time. During the week I am out in the community volunteering at our church and at my son’s school, plus the usual running of errands. My house is not messy, it’s just not as clean and organized as I’d like it to be, or think it “should be” since I’m home more than a mom who works full time.
I feel pressured in every area. I’m a homeschool mom so I feel pressured to make sure I’m giving my children a quality education. I feel like I can’t seem to get it all done. The house suffers or the laundry or something. I never feel like I do enough! Would love to win some encouragement!
Thanks.
In the mom arena, I think. It seems as if women expect other women to parent they way that they would, but they don’t understand the issues and the uniqueness of each family. The pressure to handle everything “correctly” drives me crazy sometimes.
I feel pressure to find perfection most in my
Mothering. Mothering is hard. Parenting is hard and it is something that I did not realize would be so hard. I didn’t have good examples set for me and now feel the need to over-compensate.
Naming my biggest desire and struggle to be perfect is hard because I want to be the perfect me — perfect in everything I do. The biggest problem with that is only God is perfect. My desire to be perfect is met with my very not perfect self. This year I’m learning that because I’m not perfect I can lean on my God who is perfect in every way : ). I just have to remind myself to lean on Him and not me.
Definitely @ my job and in my interactions with people. I want to reflect positively on people in all places and have a good reputation in work and in life, which is good, but sometimes puts too much pressure on myself and others.
Most of my pressure comes from me trying to be the one that keeps in peace in the family and keep everyone happy. I have found out that this does not work. You just can not make everyone happy and there are some that are not going to be happy no matter what you do!!
I have always tried to be waht everyone else expected me to be and I realize that you can not do that! I fould out several times through my marriage that my husband was running around on me and I always took the blame until this last time! I had had enough! When he listed all of the reasons why he was calling a ‘friend’ of mine and was falling for her (supposedly it had not gotten to the physical stage yet), every reason was me!! he had been calling her for 3 1/2 years and they were both lying to me. We are still together but I am different now! I put pressure on me to be me and not listen to the lies that he told me was the reason for his cheating. Now I put more pressure on myself to make time in my day to read my Bible and spend time studying about God and what I am. I let things for other people go noe to do this for me but sometimes it does put pressure on me bacause of having to listen to all of the complaining about things I have stopped doing. I have God in my life more than I ever have and it is making a total difference in me. I know longer feel worthless, want to commit sucide, cry all the time, or let other people control me. it is still hard at time to not fall back in the old pattern but as soon as I start feeling it coming on, I start praying and I also decide I will not allow this anymore. God is with me and I know that with Him I can overcome anything!
I think an easier question for me is where do I NOT feel the pressure to be perfect? I feel pressure to be a perfect mom, perfect wife, perfect friend … the list goes on. What’s hardest is remembering that no one is expecting perfection – except me. ;)
I feel the need to be perfect in so many areas of my life—-I’ve always felt this way and I think the worst part is that I tend to look back at the mistakes I made when I was in my late teens, early 20s, and I still beat myself up over and over again. I’m 33 years old and I still do it. I look at my husband and think he could have done better. I look at my daughter and think she deserves a better Mom (again because of mistakes of my past!) and then I realize that I shouldn’t do that because God doesn’t make mistakes. He gave me this beautiful child because He felt me worthy to be her Mom. He gave me this amazing, loving and caring husband.
This book sounds amazing! Thank you for making me aware of it!!!
I feel the pressure to have a perfect house. I’m a stay at home mom, but my kids go to school so I feel like everyone expects my house to be perfect all the time.
I feel Like I need to be perfect in EVERYTHING. I am being serious. I want to be the perfect daughter and friend and sister and aunt and citizen. I just feel like no matter what I do it’s never enough and I can’t seem to measure up! If it’s not a perfect job I see all the flaws…I see the glass half empty, not what I accomplished. :/
guess it’d be being a perfect mother. i always wonder what people think a/b me when I’m in public and my kids are acting up…i don’t know why this even bothers me!
Let’s see. Where do I NOT feel the pressure to be perfect. Probably the worst area for this is in mothering though!
Wife & stay at home mom.
Because I’m organized and like to keep on my desk only the thing I am working with at that moment, the teacher in the classroom next door (the Lead Teacher) always calls me “perfect.” Neat and perfect are not the same thing, but with the label, it’s tough trying to live up to the title.